Slacker and Steve - OPP: His Friends Are Losers (Audio)

February 21, 2017

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Today’s OPP is from Janelle:


Yi Slacker and Steve,

I’ve been dating a guy for a couple of months. I met him at a bar and we started hanging out. He’s really nice and seems like a responsible guy…pretty much everything I figured I would never find in a bar. He has a great job and a nice apartment. He always pays when we go out. He opens doors for me and always knows what wine to get with dinner. I’m skeptical though and I think it might all be a ruse. The few times we’ve hung out with his friends, I found out they are all losers. Half of them don’t have jobs and sit around and smoke pot all day. Most of them don’t have girlfriends and if they do, they are losers too. Some of them still live at home with their parents. One of them has 2 kids that he never sees from 2 different women. How can someone so nice and responsible hang out with people like that? Sure, he has a good job, but it makes me wonder if the rest is just a show he’s putting on to get me and then he’ll turn out to be like them. Is it a red flag if a guy only has friends that are losers?



She needs your advice, is it a red flag if a responsible man has loser friends?