Slacker and Steve - OPP: I Want Him to Choose Me (Audio)

June 1, 2017

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Here is today's OPP:


Yi! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We don't live together yet. He currently lives with his brother and his cousin but I am almost always at his house. His brother is extremely bipolar, sometimes he gets to the point where his actions are pretty  concerning. My boyfriend feels like he has the responsibility of making sure his brother is okay, which I totally understand. I don't think I could tell him to stop worrying about his brother. He has gotten to the point where it seems like his whole life revolves around his brother. His brother asks me to leave multiple times a week and my boyfriend doesn't ever stand up to him and tell him I'm staying, even though he doesn't want me to go. But my boyfriend  doesn't have the guts to say anything to him because he is so emotionally fragile. I understand that my boyfriend is in a crappy situation where he has to choose between me and his brother. I don't like putting  him in this situation so I am looking for ways that we can balance these relationships. I am worried that if we don't get something figured out his brother will be like this forever and we won't get to fully live our relationship the way WE want to. He is the reason we don't live together, even though we want to. He requested from my boyfriend that we don't live together because it will stress him out. Sometimes it seems like he uses his bipolar-ness to his advantage and to get what he wants. 



What's your advice for Mackenzie?